Do Not Stop To Run After Your Dreams In Marriage
Little Tips to Keep Relationship Between Spouses Alive
Last time, daily life routines, child care, career goals... while trying to deal with these, we often notice that we neglect our spouse and marriage. However, it’s possible to keep your marriage alive with small tips:
- Take time for each other. Leave the housework aside, send children to bed and talk with your spouse. Ask your partner about what he/she has done during the day,tell about what you have done. Get your mind set on what you're planning. Successful couples spend five hours a week and talk more than others. Enrich your common chat topics.
- Try to create environments where only the two of you can exist. Improve activities that you enjoy doing together: play tennis, go to the cinema, shop, create a non-tech environment (phone, computer)..leave the gadgets aside and focus on each other, do to the dance course, take a walk. The important criteria keeping marriage alive is to be good friends with each other and enjoy having fun together.
- Talk about your relationship at the regular basis. How much you are interested in each other, how happy you are in this relationship, how unhappy you are in this relationship, how much this relationship meets needs of both partners, what can be done to make it better?... By talking to openly to your partner, you minimize any possible problems that may arise in your relationship. If you choose to hide your head or your partner's misconception, rather than openly pointing out to him/her, this wound may grow inside you and become gangrene, and it may be too late for everything.
- Always be well maintained and clean. Do not be misled by "We are married already,I don’t have to be specially prepared for it anymore”. Being well-groomed is a sign of respect to yourself and the other person. Take care of your personal hygiene, your outward appearance. This is one of the most common complaints of spouses coming to a consultation, and as spouses can not express it easily to their partners, they drift apart from each other with the lapse of time.
- Make small surprises: surprise your partner! During the day when your spouse doesn't expect it, send a nice message to your partner, prepare a CD with songs that you used to listen during your flirtation period, prepare a romantic table, flower your workplace, send flowers to her, send letters and post something she wants, show her that you are still thinking and caring, thus you willprevent your marriage from stagnation.
- Pay attention to your communication: tell your partner that you love him/her often, that you love him/her very much, that you are very happy to be with him/her, compliment him/her.
- Avoid harsh expressions in your conversations and discussions. Be sure to use “us language” in your communication. Besides, to be open and honest with your partner. You may not always be very interested in him/her, and you may not be able to be perfect at everything. Don't hesitate to apologize to him/her for such situations. Never hold a grudge,never fear. Keep in mind that you will sleep together in the bedroom at night or you will be alone in the house again.
- Make him/her feel that you are always there for him/her: praise and appreciate his/her achievements; be there for his/her failures; and comfort his/her sadness. Make him/herfeel supportive about everything, be the closest friend, confidant.
- Do not be afraid to get expert support: you are not obliged to have any untouchable problems or go to the brink of divorce to go to the family therapist. Your support will help you to overcome your potential problems more easily.
