Marriage Decision is The First Step. The Rest is…Sharing
The Passwords of Mutual Conversation in Relationships: Tell..
Free expression of thoughts and emotions is a sign of a healthy relationship.The way you express your thoughts determines whether you and your partner are a good teammate or an enemy to each other
The key principles and secrets I will now talk aboutthe main principles and secrets that will show you the way of how to continue your relationship as two people who love each other.
Tell everything that comes on your mind.Express your concerns,fears and wishes.For your partner to give importance to significantfor you issues,you need to present your preferences.If you are concerned about something and do not express it,your partner will never be aware of your problems and wishes.Sharing your feelings with clarity creates a bond of intimacy between you,which enables you to strengthen and deepen the bond between each other.
Say it really;indirect communication by giving clues is a strategy that is more risky and less likely to gain.Always express your feelings and wishes clearly.Men sometimes think that saying everything or playing cards open contradicts the traditional,strongand silent male image.However,when it comes to marriage and relationship, strong and silent are very contrasting words.Being silent in marriage is not a sign of strength,but of weakness and self-confidence.Please don’t forget that if you stick to a lonely cowboy image that doesn't give out his feelings and cards,unfortunately at the end of the film you will still remain a lonely cowboy.
Avoid hope and curiosity;hoping that your partner will read your mind, it will confuse you both,just like you thought you would read his/her mind. An alternative to hope and curiosity is to talk and ask.Trying to predict your partner's feelings and thoughts creates unnecessary tension and problems. So ask him/her.Ask the question in your head loudly.
You know, you should be careful with “I think”;when you think that you have expressed your thoughts on a certain subject before,you start saying 'You know, I think'. However, it’s more right that you express your thoughts directly rather than starting with “You know, I think”, because the other one is a critical method and makes the person in front of you to immediately defend himself.
Say what you want,not what you don’t want;you can express your concerns by saying what you do not want,but you do not express what you want in this way.Telling someone what you don't want can be compared withgiving him a film’s negative instead of giving a colorfulphotograph.There are no real colors in the film's negatives.Instead of giving your wife the negatives that are difficult to guess,give her the positive,that is, expressing what you want.If you notice that you use an expression 'I don't want', you should immediately add to this what you want.
Ask, do not complain; Complaints focus on the past,create despair;because the past cannot be changed.Requests express your preferences.They focus on your actions in future and show you the way of how you can correct your current situation.Complaints can sometimes appear as a question. If you hear it in the form “why...you don't?” be careful. In fact, in this hidden question there is a hidden complaint. But requests reflect real questions.For example, “Would you like to fulfill my request?”.A request can always be accepted,if it’s sincere or if there is a real compromise: “If ... you do so, I will...”
