Special Pakistani Weddings
WEDDING OF COLORS: PAKISTAN
Pakistani weddings are not the weddings which finish in one or two days with plain ceremonies. Every detail has been considered, every detail has been completed with colors. These weddings are from another world with their colors and magic.
However, Pakistani youth can not get married easly in Pakistan. It is a traditional and strict country. When it comes to wedding, Pakistan is really strict. Marriages in Pakistan usually start with blind date. Family of the bride candidate and family of the groom candidate decides marriage for the couple. Even if the couple meets themselves, they continue to apply traditions in their life and wedding. In Pakistan dowry is paid by bride side. Dowry means lands, houses, tons of money. For example if a girl marries with a man who is a doctor, her father should give the groom candidate an office as a gift. In short, dowry can change according to needs.
In Pakistan, grooms family should ask bride candidate's family for permission for marriage. But according to traditions, lots of difficulties are waiting for the groom. Bride candidate's family does every kind of rude things to groom. The main point is to test groom's patience. Groom candidate should stay calm even if he hears the worst words or face the worst behaviors. After the bride's family and groom made peace and groom bear all the difficulties for his bride, tea and desserts are served and game is over.
Pakistani Engagement
In Pakistan, bride and groom do not see each other during the engagement ceremony. Bride's mother wears the ring for the bride and groom's mother wears the groom's ring for the groom. After ring presentation and engagement ceremony, wedding preparations starts for the couple and the families.
Entertainment starts with a traditional instrument called dholki days and even weeks before the wedding. Everybody starts to enjoy, dance and play.
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One day before the henna day, bride has a special relaxation and self-care day called maayun. Close relatives and women can also accompany bride. Scented oils which are peculiar to Pakistan are used, a face and body mask called ubtan is applied. Even if this ceremony takes only a day nowadays, it took 8 to 15 days in the past. During these processes, bride never leaves the house and should not see the groom. We can say that Pakistani weddings mostly focus on grooms, because all the burden is usually on bride's family's shoulders. It is not easy to get married in Pakistan.
Pakistani Weddings
The first day of wedding ceremony starts with prayers. Groom side - without the groom next to them - comes to bride's family's house with flowers in their hands. At this point, bride sits on a chair which is decorated with the flowers which groom's parents bring. Bride sits with no smile on her face as a Pakistani tradition. Guests come one by one, wishes good luck and good and fertile married life and puts money on bride's head. Each guest should give dessert to bride and bride should eat all of them. The money given in this ceremony is given to the workers of the house. For the next step, this time bride's family goes to groom's family's house with dowries and flowers. The ritual repeats itself again.
Henna Night
The day after is henna day. It called ‘’Mehndi’’. Only close relatives can attend to this ceremony. Bride and her family comes to the Mehndi venue earlier and they start to welcome wedding guests with flowers in their hands. Flowers are a must for a Pakistani wedding. Bride, groom and their families are adorned with fresh and colorful flowers. Bride, families and guests wear either yellow clothes or a yellow accessory. Mehndi night used to called ‘’Tael Mehndi’’ which means ‘’oil and henna’’. This is because not only henna is applied to bride and groom but also oils which is believed that brings good luck applied to bride and groom.
Afterwards, bride, groom and their families comes to the wedding venue with flowers and drums. Then begins the most fun part of Mehndi. Bride and bride’s family and groom and groom’s family sits on a large carpet on the floor. Songs are singing with traditional instruments and everybody dance. A song competition is held and the faster and most enthusiastic side wins. In Mehndi ceremony, flowers and candies are given to the guests as gifts. The day after Mehndi called the rest day. Each family continues to celebrate in their own houses.
Pakistani Marriage Ceremony
Pakistani weddings last for days. Marriage ceremony is held in the morning and women do not attend this ceremony. Marriage ceremony happens between deputy of bride and groom. In Pakistani, everything has a ceremony in Pakistan. A green shawl is put on bride and groom’s head before they see each other after the marriage ceremony for the first time. The couple looks at each other from a mirror first. When they see each other for the first time, they share a sweet fruit which symbolizes a good married life. Afterwards they accept greetings while eating their food. At the meantime, bride’s friends steal groom’s shoes and they ask for money in return.
Weddings in Pakistan
Wedding starts at evening and leads all night. In wedding venue again the bride’s family welcomes the groom’s family with flowers in their hands. The Pakistani bride’s wedding dress color this night is red. Wedding dress consists of lots of beads, silk fabric and hand made machining. Groom wears traditional shalwar. Bride not laughs during the wedding because it is considered not a right thing to marry so happy. During the ceremony bride and groom should eat the desserts which guests offer to them. One of the interesting traditions in the Pakistani wedding is that the groom should drink milk until he and bride’s family agrees on money which will be given by groom to bride’s family. Everyone dances and sings songs during the wedding and afterwards bride and groom go to their own house with preayers of the guests.
This is not the end of the wedding. There is one more detail called ‘’Walima Night’’. Walima night is organized by groom’s family. The bride and groom which come to the groom’s house are welcomed with flowers again.
Pakistani weddings which are a mixture of prayers and dances is very colorful as you read. This wise culture continues with its traditions. A Pakistani wedding is a wedding for lovers who can bear all the difficulties for each other.
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